Thursday, February 25, 2010

How to Get Him to Propose - Becoming Irresistible Until He's Head Over Heels For You

You find yourself faced with a predicament. You're head over heels crazy in love with a man, but you just can't seem to get him to propose. The relationship is great. He seems to love you, and you definitely love him, but he just doesn't seem to be in any kind of hurry to commit to being your husband. Is there anything you can do to get a man to propose?
There could be many reasons your boyfriend hasn't decided to propose just yet. For women, the thought of marriage is all about love and being with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Nothing else really matters. However, many men view marriage and commitment in a much more business like or rational sort of way. It's important to understand this as you attempt to get your man so head over heels in love with you that he just can't stand the thought of not being your husband for another second.
How To Get Him To Propose - The Do's And Dont's Of Turning Your Boyfriend Into Your Husband
Things NOT to do if you want your man to commit to marriage.
  • Don't express your disappointment in not receiving a proposal yet.
  • Don't interrogate him as to why he hasn't proposed yet.
  • Don't discuss a wedding all the time or show your man lots of pictures of expensive rings or you'll end up making him feel pressured.
  • Don't mention how big and amazing your friend's wedding was and how you hope yours will be just like it or you risk making him feel like he won't be able to provide everything you want which will make him gun shy.
  • Don't let not receiving a proposal depress you and make you needy, moody, clingy, or desperate.
Things you SHOULD do if you want your man to propose to you.
  • Show and tell him that you admire him and love him just the way he is.
  • Make sure he knows being with him is more important to you than having a big engagement ring or the perfect proposal.
  • Do what you can to reduce his stress over financial and other life stresses that may be keeping him from feeling confident about a wedding. He'll need to feel like he can provide for you and a family before he's ready to make the big move.
  • Pull back a little bit emotionally and physically if you feel the reason he's not committing is because he's fallen into a "comfort zone". He needs to feel like he could lose you, but don't give him an ultimatum. Never tell him something like, "I'm having babies in the next 2 years with or without you."
  • Spend more time away or out with friends to make him miss time with you.
  • Be patient and don't rush to any conclusions. You never know when he might be saving up money for a big surprise. Sometimes this takes months or even years if he doesn't have a lot of extra income.

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