Women who feel they are at a point in their lives where marriage is a definite possibility will head toward devastation when they realize their boyfriends do not reciprocate those feelings. It is pretty common for two people to be on entirely different commitment levels, so if you want him to propose to you, but you are afraid he does not want to, here are a few signs that say he is not ready.
Meeting the Folks
The biggest sign that he is not ready to propose is when he is hesitant to let you meet the people he cares about the most--best friends and family members. So if you have been in a relationship with your boyfriend for awhile, but have still not met his parents or his guy pals, chances are he is not thinking about where you fit in his long-term future. Of course, if you have already done the meet and greet, you are probably on the track towards a proposal and marriage.
Financial Security
Men who live from one paycheck to the next are probably not marriage material. If your man is not responsible in a financial sense, he is most likely far from popping the question. Does he have a savings account? Does he own any investments? Is he familiar with the terms "retirement fund" and "mortgage?" If not, he is not ready to get engaged, much less married. A man who is ready to settle down with that special someone will be more careful as to where his money goes.
Current Living Arrangement
Are you both still living in separate houses or apartments? If so, have you ever discussed combining both of your households? If not, do not expect a marriage commitment anytime soon. But if you and your boyfriend do live together and have even discussed buying your first home, it means he is thinking about building a life with you.
Quality Time
A man who wants to spend the rest of his life with a certain woman will do what it takes to spend quality time with her. If he does not seem put out by taking you to the airport, driving across town to bring you lunch at work, running errands with you, or simply hanging out at your house, he probably wants to be with you. Also, if he calls you when he is out of town or otherwise busy, this is also a good sign he is ready to commit. However, if he makes flimsy excuses as to why he has to back out of yet another date, do not count on him sticking around forever.
What He Says
Although this last one seems like an obvious sign, many women do not realize that a man who talks about his future and includes his girlfriend into the equation is ready to propose. For instance, instead of saying "me" and "I" he will say "us" and "we." A man who is not ready to get married will never speak about his future using plural terms.
Meeting the Folks
The biggest sign that he is not ready to propose is when he is hesitant to let you meet the people he cares about the most--best friends and family members. So if you have been in a relationship with your boyfriend for awhile, but have still not met his parents or his guy pals, chances are he is not thinking about where you fit in his long-term future. Of course, if you have already done the meet and greet, you are probably on the track towards a proposal and marriage.
Financial Security
Men who live from one paycheck to the next are probably not marriage material. If your man is not responsible in a financial sense, he is most likely far from popping the question. Does he have a savings account? Does he own any investments? Is he familiar with the terms "retirement fund" and "mortgage?" If not, he is not ready to get engaged, much less married. A man who is ready to settle down with that special someone will be more careful as to where his money goes.
Current Living Arrangement
Are you both still living in separate houses or apartments? If so, have you ever discussed combining both of your households? If not, do not expect a marriage commitment anytime soon. But if you and your boyfriend do live together and have even discussed buying your first home, it means he is thinking about building a life with you.
Quality Time
A man who wants to spend the rest of his life with a certain woman will do what it takes to spend quality time with her. If he does not seem put out by taking you to the airport, driving across town to bring you lunch at work, running errands with you, or simply hanging out at your house, he probably wants to be with you. Also, if he calls you when he is out of town or otherwise busy, this is also a good sign he is ready to commit. However, if he makes flimsy excuses as to why he has to back out of yet another date, do not count on him sticking around forever.
What He Says
Although this last one seems like an obvious sign, many women do not realize that a man who talks about his future and includes his girlfriend into the equation is ready to propose. For instance, instead of saying "me" and "I" he will say "us" and "we." A man who is not ready to get married will never speak about his future using plural terms.
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