Should a Man and Woman Be Friends First, Before Lovers? Is It Important to Be Friends First?

The answer is yes, for some finding a partner for casual sex may be an agenda but if the couple is friends first they can handle the physical and psychological consequences of sex better and it helps in forging a greater intimacy.

It may work for short term
Often people jump into serious relationship quickly and into a bed too without getting to know each other well. It feels great for a short term but it distracts them from really knowing each other on intimate level. Sex is an expression of intimacy and commitment for each other so it will do well if one works on being friends first.



It does not lead to long term relationship
Most couples break up if sex is the only thing that is the binding factor in their relationship. A man and the woman have to be compatible and find out if they connect emotionally as well and this is not possible if they are meeting only for sex.
Being friends is necessary
In any relationship developing the bond of friendship is very important as it means one understands each other and is comfortable together. This makes the progression to next level easier and the relationship will be successful as you have spent time to know your partner and know his/her characteristics and traits.


The relationship has a solid foundation
When you work to be friends there is great understanding of each others needs and desires. There are no unreal expectations as you know your partner well but this does not mean that sex in committed relationship should be boring. When one spends enough time with each other you know the person as he/she is and there is no pretense involved.

The bond is stronger
When there is friendship the bond is deeper and stronger and taking it to next level from here makes your relationship more meaningful and intimate. When you know each others likes and dislikes and want to please them it brings you closer both physically and emotionally.

Intimacy
You grow close emotionally and the intimacy grows steadily. There is a feeling of being connected and bonding where you can count on each other. There is a sense of mutual sharing and genuine liking for one another.

Excitement and passion are the key factors
There is excitement and desire to build a rapport as a team that develops from having trust, respect and tolerance for each other. There is an element of romance and attraction that is absent in casual sex.

The Laws of Attraction - Do They Exist?

The word attraction coupled with the many myths associated with it is difficult to comprehend. Despite many books written on the subject, there is still vagueness in understanding the subject. In short it is not easy to define this word in one sentence not even in one paragraph.

Many people and especially men have fallen victims of this believe and the confusion associated with lack of clear cut definition of the word attraction. It is sometimes damaging that many men are so demoralized to a point of forsaking the dating issue completely which is not healthy at all.
Having the wrong information is dangerous in the same way, having the right knowledge in this subject of dating will be so helpful to the man interested in finding a woman to date. Right information will trash the wrong perception out of the way.



Never be pushed to be what you are not. Avoid grooming yourself to fit in her shoes or to appear as though you are her match. This is a myth and it doesn't work at all. Ladies are known to walk with a list of things they would love their men to have.

From the onset, understand that offering goods and gifts to your woman of choice is not synonymous to being loved or winning her heart. If you have not won her emotions, you may nit get her to like you.
One other misconception or myth peddled by men is that you cannot win a woman who is better positioned status wise to love you. When you consider her education or even her life achievements, you may get scared to even approach her leave alone engaging her for a date.



Always endeavor to be the king in this subject. Not in material things but in manner of conversation. Ladies feel comfortable being with a man who treasures her. So boost your image and confidence as you keep on showing her that you admire her and soon she will be ready for your date.

Remember you are the king and the person to determine the way things will go in this venture, good or bad. So carry yourself in the best way possible when you are with your queen to make sure it can go as well as possible. Avoid belittling yourself before her. Take charge and she will get along well with you and hopefully wish to continue seeing you.

Valantine's Day Recipe For Lovers

When you think of Valentine's Day recipes you really can't help but think of chocolate. I mean who is not a chocolate lover? I have found that it is definitely many people's guilty pleasure. One of my most favorite and decadent guilty pleasure Valentine's Day recipes is this luscious and yummy Amaretto-Chocolate souffle. It is not terribly difficult to make and is always a hit.



First up, you ingredient list. You'll need:
* A quarter of a cup of all-purpose flour
* One teaspoon of instant espresso powder
* One cup granulated sugar
* Two tablespoons of granulated sugar, for sprinkling
* One cup of milk
* Three tablespoons of butter
* Five ounces of unsweetened chocolate, chopped coarsely
* Three tablespoons of almond flavor liqueur
* Two teaspoons of vanilla extract
* Four large eggs, separate the yolks from the whites
* Two large egg whites
* One quarter teaspoon of salt
* And a little confectioner sugar

Now to make the souffle you just combine the flour, espresso powder, and a half cup of granulated sugar; gently stir in milk until blended in a large saucepan. Cook until the mixture comes to a boil and let boil for a minute, stirring the whole time.


After removing the pan from the heat, whisk in the butter and chocolate. Then add the liqueur and vanilla and whisk until creamy. Then, after whisking in the egg yolks, allow the mix to cool until lukewarm. Preheat your oven to 350 degrees F and grease two quart souffle dish. Sprinkle in two tablespoons granulated sugar.
In your mixing bowl beat all the egg whites and salt until foamy. Slowly beat in remaining a half cup of granulated sugar just until stiff peaks form Then gradually fold two thirds of the egg whites into the chocolate. Pour all this into a souffle dish and bake for forty minutes. And there you have my best Valentine's Day recioe for lovers.

How to Get Your Boyfriend to Worship You - Become the Most Special Person in His Eyes Right Away

You are not satisfied with the way things are between you and your boyfriend and will be happy only when he worships the ground you walk on! This means that you need him to be well and truly hooked on to you. Here are some ways in which you can captivate and mesmerize him that will keep him addicted to you in every way!


Be his ideal companion
To be an ideal companion will take a lot of effort on your part, but it will be worth it because in the long run he is going to worship you. Be understanding of his needs and his general make up without being selfish. The more giving and accommodating you are the more he will want you to be with him forever. He will grow to admire you deeply.

Look like the personification of perfection and beauty
Try your best to look as attractive as possible. If you are elegant and classy, he will naturally be proud to be your man and will want to show you off! He will love it when he finds that he cannot take his eyes off you! Be captivating and gorgeous and he will begin to worship you.


Stimulate him body, mind and soul
The trick to get him worship you is to make sure that you intrigue and stimulate his senses in such a way that he is convinced that you are one in a million. Never be satisfied only with physical attraction. He has to have you in his heart and on his mind constantly so that the whole relationship becomes meaningful and important.

Intrigue him and impress him with your intellect
Most men are interested in a woman's intellect. This is because they need to know that she is not just beautiful on the outside with no brains or intellect! He has to be impressed by the fact that you are confident and assured in company. This will not only make him admire you but he will long to spend more time with you.


Have sincere and genuine qualities
Physical attraction can be very strong and potent but it can also be fleeting! To make sure that his attraction for you is long and lasting - attract him emotionally, mentally as well as physically. Genuine traits of honesty, gentleness, loyalty and self control will make him love you and worship you more.

Be ready for adventure and fun
Never let him get bored around you. If you are too predictable and boring and never want to do anything that will take you outside your "comfort zone" then you are in danger of losing him. He needs to know that you trust him enough to "let go" of your inhibitions and have fun and adventure with him.

Don't judge and assume things
One of the worst things you could do is judge, criticize and assume that you know it all! This will make him want to break away from you. On the other hand a patient, trusting and loving attitude towards him will make him want to get even closer to you.

Love in Africa: A Collection of African Love Quotes

Many women including myself like to claim that the male segment of our population knows nothing about love and romance. African men in particular get a lot of criticism for been un-romantic and incapable of expressing their emotions. From personal experience I would say that this is not true, some of the most romantic men I have dated are African. However, what is romance really? I like to define it as the expression of love. In this article I define romance through the use of some of my favorite African love quotes. These African quotes give us a glimpse into African culture and views on life. They are a part of African history and show us that love and the expression of love are universal. So in defense of my romantic African brothers here are some African love sayings, enjoy them and for all the men out there feel free to use them this Valentines Day to show your beloved just how much you care.


Romantic African Quotes

The best part of happiness lies in the secret heart of a lover. - (African Proverb). This is one of the most romantic love quotes that I have read, it is almost poetic. Here are some more romantic African love quotes that show us love flowers everywhere.
1. Where there is love there is no darkness. -Burundi
2. A woman is a flower in a garden; her husband is the fence around it. - Ghana
3. A letter from the heart can be read on the face. - Swahili
4. Love is like a baby: it needs to be treated tenderly. - Congo DRC
5. Let your love be like the misty rain, coming softly, but flooding the river. - Liberia and Madagascar
6. Love is like rice: transplanted, still it grows. -Madagascar
7. If the full moon loves you, why worry about the stars? -Tunisia
8. Many little things make a man love a woman in a big way. - Ghana
9. One thread for the needle, one love for the heart. - Sudan
10. The house of a person we love is never far. - Kenya
11. He who loves the vase loves also what is inside. - African Proverb
12. The one who loves an unsightly person is the one who makes her beautiful. - Uganda
13. He who loves, loves you with your dirt. -Uganda Proverb
14. Love never gets lost it is only kept. - African Proverb
15. Happiness requires something to do, something to love and something to hope for. - Swahili Saying

Funny African Love Quotes
Coffee and love taste best when hot! - (African proverb). Who said African men are not passionate. I love my coffee hot and steamy and as this funny love quote from Ethiopia shows love is also best served hot. Ethiopia is famous for its coffee, so the next time you sip a steaming cup of coffee think about heating up your love life too. Here are a few more funny love quotes for your enjoyment. Sip slowly.
1. Do not desire a woman with beautiful breasts, if you have no money. - South Africa
2. If you are ugly you must either learn to dance or make love. - Zimbabwe
3. To love the king is not bad, but a king who loves you is better. -Wolof Proverb
4. If you marry a monkey for his wealth, the money goes and the monkey remains as is. - Egypt
5. Never marry a woman who has bigger feet than you. - Mozambique
6. He who does not like chattering women must remain a bachelor. - Congo DRC
7. Pretend you are dead and you will see who really loves you. -African Proverb
8. The buttocks are like a married couple though there is constant friction between them; they will still love and live together. - African Proverb
9. It is Mr. Old-Man-Monkey who marries Mrs. Old-Woman-Monkey. - Ghana
10. If there were no cold Friday evenings and boring Saturdays, no one would get married any more. - Morocco
11. If money were to be found up in the trees, most people would be married to monkeys. - African proverb
12. If a young woman says no to marriage just wait until her breasts sag. -Burundi



African Marriage Quotes
Marriage is like a groundnut; you have to crack it to see what is inside. - (African Quote). Ah marriage that bed of roses that is so often talked about. How can one speak of love without speaking of marriage. It is only fitting that we close off this article with quotes about the bonds (sorry I meant joys) of marriage.
1. One who marries for love alone will have bad days but good nights. - Egypt
2. A home without a woman is like a barn without cattle. - African proverb
3. A happy man marries the girl he loves, but a happier man loves the girl he marries. - African quote
4. Marriage is like a groundnut; you have to crack it to see what is inside. - Ghana
5. If you have no relatives, get married. - Egypt
6. A man without a wife is like a vase without flowers. - African Proverb
7. A young wife tends to cook too much at first. - Ethiopia
8. Bread without sauce and a home without a wife are meaningless. - Ethiopia
9. A bird can be guarded, a wife can't. - Swahili
10. One who plants grapes by the road side, and one who marries a pretty woman, share the same problem. - Ethiopia
11. A good wife is easy to find, but good in-laws are rare. - Madagascar
12. It is better to be married to an old lady than to remain unmarried. - Uganda
13. The man may be the head of the home but the wife is the heart. - Kenya
14. Marriage is not a tight knot, but a slip knot. - Madagascar
15. The woman who does not covet the possessions of her husband is in love with another man. ~Egypt

These are just a few of my favorite love quotes. I hope you enjoyed them as much as I did. You can read more African quotes here.
Injete Chesoni is an incurable romantic, artist, poet and writer who enjoys writing about various topics. Visit her blog to view her unique artwork and to read her poetry and stories.